|Living the life superlative|
My tips, ideas, advice and observations on life, love, happiness and growth. This blog runs the gamut. Nothing is forbidden, too much, or too strange. I hope you'll enjoy, engage, and most important, explore paths for not just "living the dream", but "living a life beyond your wildest."by Victoria
* Complain (Instead of taking action, making changes and finding solutions, you expend your energy complaining about what’s wrong. This turns you into a victim and renders powerless thinking.)
* Gossip (Saying negative things about others that you wouldn’t say to their face only reflects poorly on you.)
* Yell (Yelling or any elevated voice-raising is symptomatic of anger. At the root of all anger is fear, specifically fear of losing control. Either force yourself to lower your voice and regain control, or get to the root of your anger and detach the emotion from it.)
* Over-indulge (Eating too much, drinking too much or taking drugs doesn’t eliminate a problem or make it doesn’t go away. Over indulging is a temporary escape from your woes but until you solve the issues in other ways, they will remain firmly intact.)
What YOU CAN DO to shift your mood
* Smile (Experts say that even the gesture of smiling and curving your mouth up can shift your mood.)
* Move (Get some exercise to release serotonin.)
* Write (Journaling—or any writing exercise—moves out the busyness of your mind chatter, providing serenity and inner calm that carries you throughout the day. Try Morning Pages as a brain cleanser.)
* Sing (Preferably at the top of your lungs!)
* Listen (Get out of your head and yourself by actively listening to others. The world revolves around the world, of which you are a part of the whole.)
* Dance (Dance is a proven antidepressant. Studies show dance boosts happiness and benefits overall health.)
* Create (Research has shown that being creative alters us by improving our mood, self esteem and socialization. That’s enough motivation to get more creative!)
* Rest (We often underestimate it; devalue it; don’t get enough of it. However, even a small increase in rest provides noticeable benefits. Optimal sleeping conditions include dark, cool, and silent.)
* Drink water (Hydrate regularly throughout the day.)
* Breathe deeply (Oxygenating your lungs and your body is calming, improves the detoxification process, relieves anxiety, lowers blood pressure and provides many more emotional and physical benefits.)
* Be still (Being quiet can be the best non-action item when you want to change your mood. Slowing down even for a few minutes calms your mind and invites in peace.)
You cannot assume that when you get a “feeling” about someone or something in your life, that the feeling is accurate or objective. So, instead of acting on the “feeling,” seek out additional ways to validate intuitive information using tools-of-measurement.
For example, these tools might include researching data or facts, or asking other peoples’ opinions whom you trust or value. This will help you determine whether your “gut check” is steering you in a direction that truly serves you. Eventually you’ll get so good at making accurate assessments based on your intuition, that the process provides valuable information immediately.
Someone very wise once told me that the more impossible something seems, the more likely you are meant to go in the direction of manifesting it.Have you ever noticed that solutions seem to present themselves if you give yourself time? I believe the old saying sleep on it was intended to tap into that wisdom—to give the mind space and time to come up with solutions.
Feeling lonely? Many of us do; in part because we are geographically distanced from our families. Gone are the days of instant community through family—and extended family—because they are physically nearby.
In many cases this can be a source of stress for motivated entrepreneurial women who may not have ready-made help with their children and other aspects of their lives. It makes raising a family and juggling a business exceptionally challenging.
Previously, extended families were your community. Parents had help from aunts, uncles, older children and grandparents. They didn’t experience the overwhelming stress that they had to do everything themselves. And there wasn’t guilt about receiving help from family because the universal understanding was they provided free childcare.
Whether you are juggling family, single or partnered, it can also feel lonely to not be surrounded by blood relatives. This is mainly due to the expectations we and traditional society have put around what it means to have a family.
I suggest that we rethink the concept of family and create our own “villages” to manage and maintain our lives. Trades with neighbors and friends, and paying students a reasonable wage who share our values are only a few examples of how family can be redefined. These agreements can lend support on a regular basis and alleviate feelings of loneliness.
The bottom line is: we can get support in other ways if we begin to think differently. How will you build your infrastructure? I assure you, it will be key to your happiness and success. No successful entrepreneur has ever gone without it.