I prefer to live my life according to my priorities. There are times when my kids are the priority and times when my business is and times when I am my priority. It changes every moment of every day. Life is fluid so I need to ride that wave. If I stay true to what’s really important and meaningful to me, then I never feel like the room is spinning.

Take a deep breath and do the things that enhance your life and your relationships and everything else falls into place without ever having to stand still.

The reason why many of us women feel exhausted on all planes – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually – of our existence is because our social conditioning has lured many women into believing in – and adopting as values – the myth that we should want everything*.

One of the reasons why men appear to excel professionally and in business is because men generally think in concrete and specific terms.

Being Concrete and Specific Creates Goals that are Attainable.

Women, on the other hand, are more process-oriented. For example, I had a tendency to think and express myself in ambiguous terms and in feeling “tones”. My process-oriented capacity serves me well when creating an open space for brainstorming. However, process-oriented thinking can get me stuck when making a business decision.

Therefore, women entrepreneurs, ask yourself a couple of Key Questions:

1. Define “Everything”

2. Do you really want “Everything”? (You may want to identify within your definition what is a NEED versus a WANT)

Once I defined for myself what “everything” may include, I find that I sometimes can’t juggle and manage all the things that I already have. This is when I begin to clarify what is a “need” versus a “want”, and prioritize.

I’ve learned not to want everything, or at least, to think that I do want everything. I breathe easier, feel lighter, and attain more of what I want.

*I observe that the social conditioning of wanting “everything” by women may be paraphrased as, “I must be the Top Dog at Work, Mother of Year, Community Activist, have a Killer Bikini Bod, be a hairline shy of Enlightenment, and have poreless skin… and I must have it ALL RIGHT NOW.”

Original source: http://microbusinessmentor.com/blog/women-entrepreneurs-do-you-really-want-everything/

I emphatically say YES, we can have it all, just not all at once. And who would want it all at once – can you imagine that chaos? Everything you’ve ever wanted, piled on you all at the same time – holy crap!

The thing about balance is that it is a living thing, and as such it is in a constant state of flux – there are high points and low points, much like a heartbeat. And like a heartbeat, a flat line is NOT something to aspire to!

That’s where the problem lies. Somewhere along the way we got the idea that “balance” was that steady, flat line, and so the myth was born. How boring, how flat and dull an existence that would truly be. How could we measure our moments of joy with nothing to contrast them?

When we release the belief in the “balance myth”, we can embrace lives that are balanced in the true sense of the word.

Now doesn’t that sound like a whole lot more fun?

Lynn Browne
Life/Spirit/Balance Coach
Dragonfly… Life In Balance